When a woman cheats on her man, it's usually for one of four reasons, and it's beyond the man's control. For whatever reason, once a woman decides that there's something missing in your relationship, she's stepped over the line and at that point, her man's pretty much helpless to stop her. Even though she's the one who's cheating, she'll blame it on you because she thinks the flaws in the relationship are your doing.
Emotional distance, the first of these reasons, is cited as the reason for many breakups. The complaint? "He doesn't pay enough attention to me, we don't communicate enough." Women in relationships need to feel needed, admired, beautiful - and they expect their men to satisfy those needs. They expect men to be alert to, and receptive to, their feelings, and to talk about themselves and their feelings as well. If these things aren't happening, they'll feel their man is "drifting away," a harbinger of more serious problems. Without the emotional closeness, the relationship's on rocky ground, and a woman is often likely to step out in search of a new man.
The second reason women will cheat on their men is neglect. That's reasonable, but it's still fraught with pitfalls. The man who's always underfoot, always in his woman's face, will soon be considered to be clingy: too dependent, too needy, too immature - and too replaceable. She'll feel confined. On the other hand, however, when a man understands that he's got to give his woman time on her own to grow, and enhance those things he loves about her, she might decide he doesn't really care. She might decide he's neglecting her, and she'll use that space to find another man.
Women, like men, need to have a healthy sense of self-esteem, and they expect their men to provide a great deal of it. Even though they're no longer dating, they want their men to carry on the "courtship behavior" of complimenting their appearance. As frustrating as it may be to you, she'll try to get from another man the boost to her self-esteem she feels she's not getting from you. While most men understand a woman's need for self-esteem and try to reinforce it, if a woman feels she's not getting enough attention in this area, chances are good she's going to cheat.
Finally, a woman is likely to cheat on her man if she simply feels bored and needs a change of scene. The woman who does this is particularly immature, because she needs the constant sense of being in a relationship as opposed to being on her own, strong, independent and in charge of her own life. It may be easier for her to remain in a relationship while shopping for a new man, but it's emotionally and morally dishonest, as well as highly inconsiderate of the man's feelings. She'll likely find all the same old problems in her new relationship.
Regardless of the reason a woman gives for cheating on her man, the awkward truth is that they probably weren't suited to each other. True love requires honesty and communication, and a woman who cheats on her man destroys any trust there may have been. Any woman who comes to the conclusion that she's not getting what she needs from you, and that she's therefore justified in cheating on you, doesn't deserve to be with you in the first place.
Emotional distance, the first of these reasons, is cited as the reason for many breakups. The complaint? "He doesn't pay enough attention to me, we don't communicate enough." Women in relationships need to feel needed, admired, beautiful - and they expect their men to satisfy those needs. They expect men to be alert to, and receptive to, their feelings, and to talk about themselves and their feelings as well. If these things aren't happening, they'll feel their man is "drifting away," a harbinger of more serious problems. Without the emotional closeness, the relationship's on rocky ground, and a woman is often likely to step out in search of a new man.
The second reason women will cheat on their men is neglect. That's reasonable, but it's still fraught with pitfalls. The man who's always underfoot, always in his woman's face, will soon be considered to be clingy: too dependent, too needy, too immature - and too replaceable. She'll feel confined. On the other hand, however, when a man understands that he's got to give his woman time on her own to grow, and enhance those things he loves about her, she might decide he doesn't really care. She might decide he's neglecting her, and she'll use that space to find another man.
Women, like men, need to have a healthy sense of self-esteem, and they expect their men to provide a great deal of it. Even though they're no longer dating, they want their men to carry on the "courtship behavior" of complimenting their appearance. As frustrating as it may be to you, she'll try to get from another man the boost to her self-esteem she feels she's not getting from you. While most men understand a woman's need for self-esteem and try to reinforce it, if a woman feels she's not getting enough attention in this area, chances are good she's going to cheat.
Finally, a woman is likely to cheat on her man if she simply feels bored and needs a change of scene. The woman who does this is particularly immature, because she needs the constant sense of being in a relationship as opposed to being on her own, strong, independent and in charge of her own life. It may be easier for her to remain in a relationship while shopping for a new man, but it's emotionally and morally dishonest, as well as highly inconsiderate of the man's feelings. She'll likely find all the same old problems in her new relationship.
Regardless of the reason a woman gives for cheating on her man, the awkward truth is that they probably weren't suited to each other. True love requires honesty and communication, and a woman who cheats on her man destroys any trust there may have been. Any woman who comes to the conclusion that she's not getting what she needs from you, and that she's therefore justified in cheating on you, doesn't deserve to be with you in the first place.
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